December 27, 2007
Where is Anu Solanki? [Updated]News
12.28.07: For those of you who do not read comments and may not know this— there is evidence which indicates that Anu is alive:
Authorities from the Cook County Sheriff’s Department announced they believe Solanki has left the Chicago area with a friend of hers, and that she has gone willingly. [oh, snap]
Developing…
I know we’re still shocked about the assassination of Benazir Bhutto, but there’s a story about another South Asian woman which deserves attention, in case any of you can help.
We’ve received several tips about a young woman who currently lives in Chicago, who has disappeared under what I think are extra-tragic circumstances. Anu Solanki is 24 years old and a newlywed from Virginia. The last time she was seen was when she was leaving her job at a hotel gift shop, on Monday, the 24th. A few miles from there…
Her car — which was still running with its doors unlocked— was found in a forest preserve parking lot late Monday afternoon.
Forest preserve police used divers to search the river in the Wheeling Forest Preserve on Wednesday, but said they would stay inside the boats on Thursday. [abc7chicago]
This is what makes my heart ache, why I wrote that this story had an extra element of tragedy:
Solanki’s husband said his wife may have gone to the river to place a broken statue of the Hindu deity Ganesh in the water, as they were told to do by a priest, to prevent bad luck. Authorities fear the woman slipped while placing the statue in the current. [abc7chicago]
“There is some concern at this point that this is a rapid current of the Des Plaines River, that it may be wise to check even further,” said Cook County Forest Preserve District spokesman Steve Mayberry. “Miss Solanki is a petite woman, and in fact, the current may have carried her further than initially believed.” [WBBM780]
Who among us hasn’t tried to do the “right” thing, on the advice of someone we trust, even if it seems superstitious? I’m just haunted by the mental picture I have of this girl earnestly, gingerly transporting this broken-but-sacred statue, on her way to the river.
While her slipping and falling while trying to do something respectful is awful enough, there’s the possibility of worse:
Police are checking the validity of a report that Solanki called a relative and said she was being watched, but then called back minutes later to say she was fine. [abc7chicago]
That report says she called a relative, this says she called a friend:
Dignesh Solanki says his wife spoke with a friend by cell phone that afternoon, telling her she was being followed by four men, then called back to say the men had disappeared. [WBBM780]
I hope she will be found soon. Chicago mutineers Neeraj and M, thank you for keeping us posted about this.
anna on December 27, 2007 04:15 PM in News · T·r·a·c·k·b·a·c·k address · Direct link · Email post
this was all over foxnews last night as they like these stories, especially greta van susteren. they were saying that 4 guys were watching her at work as she handled cash from the register. then she appartently called someone to say the same 4 guys were following her in a car. but when her car was found the cash was in her purse.
"Her Honda Civic was found Monday afternoon in the forest preserve. A family friend said the car was unlocked and Solanki's purse and laptop were missing."
Barring that she even brought her laptop with her, I find it strange that it went missing. Given that her car was running, I doubt she took it with her to the river bank.
Maybe its a very clever murder by her husband? ...Making her go all the way till the river by herself by creating an artificial situation, with all thats needed being a push into the river. (considering the people following her disappeared when she made the phone call implying a potential feedback loop?!)
Alpha: Some consideration please. It's so damn easy to malign people's reputations without cause
This is unsettling - the Wheeling preserve is not too far from where I live, although I am now visiting family in NY.
I read this story this morning and felt terribly sad. Young, newly married and Lord Ganesha. My heart just broke. I read a few of the reports and found a few conflicting things. The bit about people following her, where is the friend? Why isn't he/she coming out? And then a report that says her purse and laptop went missing.
3 · alpha said
Alpha beta, don't rush to judgment.
Very sad.
The place is close to where I live. Area looks (?) peaceful and safe, but news like these give you a reality check.
Why do the reporters keep saying South West Suburb! This is NorthWest suburb.
JOAT - welcome back. Missed your commenting on SM. Guess married life must be keeping you busy ;)
Thanks for posting Anna-I actually passed by there today on my way home and it sent shivers down my spine. I hope for a speedy return to her family.
-M
I dont think Alphabeta is rushing to judbement. He is merely brainstorming. Quite frankly, when i heard that Ganesha story, it sounded kind of weird to me too. Not saying he is responsible, but I wouldnt be shocked either.
Such brainstorming at this juncture has the potential to be extremely cruel, especially considering that people often find Sepia Mutiny when their family members are on it. Please be more considerate.
Does Chicago have an 'amber alert' type system?
May be so, but when a spouse goes missing or meets foul play the surviving spouse is always the chief suspect for the police since they usually have both motive and opportunity to carry out the crime. It may or may not be the case here we just have to wait and watch. Alpha just put in words what probably is going through a lot of people's minds.
I'm sure the authorities have considered this possibility
Their indeed is a big loop about the phone call to her friend.
between the gift shop in westin & the forest preserve river where her car was found is 2.0miles takes 5min (even with signal). I doubt the credibility of her being called within those 5 min saying people were following her on car & then again they were gone. my thought is that one has to be followed at least some distant to realize that they have been followed.
this phone call thing has to be investigated whom anu called & trace that number.
Very phunny!
Did not catch this news on TV but read it here.
Something doesn't sound right. From my experience till now, the Purohits/Pujaris/Priests here in US are pretty careful abt asking people to leave any Hindu deities in river/lake. Now a days, the Priests are even asking people to do the visarjan in a pot of water and pour that water to plants.
I was surprised to hear that this unfortunate woman went to a river to do this. Also, if I am not wrong, the Priest would have asked the male member of the family to do this (that is according to the Hindu culture).
Hope that Anu returns home soon.
Not sure if people watched the news report the very next day after Anu disappeared -- but her husband looked calm to me, unlike many distraught looking men (at least from a cultural perspective) in a similar situation -- no tears.
But on the other hand, I am pretty pissed at the local/national media for not covering this in as much fanfare as some white chick who disappered (Stacy Peterson).
Sepia Commentors! Providing you with speculation and muck raking when Fox News won't!
Rahul,
I would not denounce that claim about the MSM ignoring these stories so easily. Have you ever heard the MSM mention a certain Rupinder Goraya, even though her case is strikingly similar to the Peterson/Petersen cases.
19 · Chetna said
Where's desi Miss Marples when you need her. She'll understand all thing desi, innit?
Oh, I agree that women of color are shortchanged in the public awareness/outrage sweepstakes - another very striking comparison was the case of Imette St. Guillen, a Latin American student who was brutally killed in New York right around the time Natalie Holloway's face was splashed on every TV and newspaper screen.
But the trial by speculation and the ease with which some people here are suspecting the husband is absolutely ridiculous. It might turn out when there is actual evidence that he was indeed the perpetrator, but accusing him now is Greta Van Susteren/Nancy Grace behavior.
Relax, Fox News is already covering it, so you can be sure this same line of speculation is close behind.
Nancy Grace should be jumping on this any second too.
Perhaps their priest/advisor was new to the country? But even then, I don't know why priests would ask people here NOT to throw broken deities into rivers or lakes or other natural bodies of water. We do it all the time. And it can be done by either male or female hindus.
I dont think speculation is the same as accusation. Saying something needs to be looked into is not the same as saying there is a good chance someone did it. Nancy Grace type behavior would be a lot more accusatory.
I first heard of this 2 nights ago on Fox. I forgot who the anchor was but she was an attractive allegedly conservative-leaning blonde who pronounced anu's name "A-new" and has never dated dinesh d'souza if that narrows it down. o wait, it could've been laura ingaram so cancel the dinesh d'souza criteria. anyway, it was a fairly extensive piece and it looked like this would be a major story on fox for a while until some other indian chick named pluto or something hit the news.
When I think abt this more, it also sounds strange that her car was running and doors were unlocked. It is so strange for a desi women to keep the car running like that. Desi women tend to be more cautious abt things. And if she thought that someone was following her (according to her phone call) then why did she not postpone her plan to leave the Ganesh Idol and go home? I would have been scared if I thought I was been watched and chased. I would have never gone to a lonely place even for Lord Ganesha.
No, here in LA, priests never ask us to do that and the new Priests are trained to the US ways. Even for the Ganeshotsav here, we need to take a special permission to do Ganesh Visarjan in the Pacific ocean. And I am talking abt small Ganesh idols, nothing big.
UPDATE: An "important development" in the Anu Solanki case will be announced by the Cook County Forest Preserve Chief of Police and the Cook County Sheriff at a 1:30 p.m. news conference. Without explanation, the search for her body was suspended at 11 a.m., although officials had said they might suspend it for bad weather. From Chicago Tribune.
Anu Solanki is alive. Details to come... (developing story)
21 · Rahul said
Speculation? I call it Suspicion.
She's alive. http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/chi-solanki_28_bothdec28,0,1486850.story?coll=chi_breaking_500
Anu Solanki alive and well; left of her own accord sheriff says
http://www.dailyherald.com/story/?id=103040&src=1
I think the husband did it.
From the Chicago Tribune
Heh, Heh, Heh
So Dear Mr. *Husband of Anu Solanki*, if you are reading this, accept my apologies for the speculation of my previous comment. (I take the apology back if you indeed killed her though)
Actually, as some others have pointed out, I'm pretty sure the husband is completely aware by now that the police are actively considering that possibility. So, the chance that he comes to sepiamutiny and realizes *from my comment*, to his utter shock and dismay, that he is indeed suspect, is rather low.
Police said today that they believe Anu Solanki, 24, missing since Monday, is alive and is with a 23-year-old man from California.
Ouch.
Oops
I didn't read the earlier comments... I confirm my apology to the poor husband :)
Maybe I should also congratulate him for getting rid of what sounds like a crazy woman.
-most respectfully,
Alpha Beta.
UPDATE: Police said today that they believe Anu Solanki, 24, missing since Monday, is alive and is with a 23-year-old man from California.
Using cell phone records, dectectives learned that Solanki was in contact with Karan C. Jani many times on the day she disappeared. Police believe Solanki may have met Jani at the Dam 1 Woods after she left work that day. Phone records showed she placed a call to a female friend that day. Although Solanki said she was on her way to the woods to discard a religious idol in the river there, records showed she was near DeKalb.
Cook County authorities released a photo of Jani today and asked if anyone sees the couple to contact police. Authorities said they do not know where they have gone.
What a horrible thing to do, to fake your own disappearance and apparent death just because you didn't have the guts to be honest.
29 · Chetna said
This was my thought as well. If I had suspicion that four men were following me--the last place I'd go would be a deserted forest.
It's because it is SOP for the police to look into the husband that I thought it unecessary to speculate about it online. Anu is alive, but the comments remain forever.The easiest thing to do today is to mess with a person's rep online, given that Google is often misused by employers as a background check. And I have no doubt that there will be speculation about why Anu would have left her husband and this, unlike the non-murder, will hang over his head forever
Open letter to my wife: If you are going to run away with your boyfriend, please be courteous and let me know before you go. It will save everyone a lot of trouble. Atleast, I won't have my name spread over all the papers and online blogs. Also, I won't have to call the police, who send cadaver-sniffing dogs after you. Thank you.
That's extremely horrible of her... faking her own death and then running off with her boyfriend?
And here I thought that Law and Order episodes were actually fictional. Looks like stuff like that happens in real life.
One has to ask why she was so desperate to leave her husband in such a deceptive manner. Could she not have simply divorced him? Or were there threats to her life if she had.
Keep in mind that by faking her own death not only her husband and in laws would believe her to be dead, but her own family and friends as well.
More investigation is still needed to get to the bottom of this.
If I were to be reading about this I would just have sympathy for him... (but of course it is true that a potential future romantic interest might wonder if his wife left him because he isn't good in bed or things like that...)
In any case, its an interesting coincidence that the latest posts on sepiamutiny have been on *allegedly* stupid desis - tiger taunting teenagers, and then a stupid woman who thinks she can fool the police, etc. into thinking she's dead...(this is 2007 for heaven's sake. how long does she think it takes to establish that a person is alive??)
not to clog the commetns, but latest from the Trib:
UPDATE: Police said today that they believe Anu Solanki, 24, missing since Monday, is alive and is with a 23-year-old man from California.
Using cell phone records, detectives learned that Solanki was in contact with Karan C. Jani many times on the day she disappeared. Police believe Solanki may have met Jani at the Dam 1 Woods after she left work that day to properly discard a broken religious statue. Authorities said they have not found the idol and believe she went to the woods to meet Jani.
On the day she disappeared, Solanki placed a call to a female friend around 1:40 p.m. In that conversation, she told her friend she was at the Des Plaines River by the dam, but phone records showed she was actually near DeKalb, detectives said.
On Friday, Cook County Sheriff Thomas Dart asked the couple or anyone who might see them to reach out to authorities. Though Solanki may have left williingly, her family is still concerned. Dart said. Solanki was married in May in New Jersey and Dart said her husband, Dignesh Solanki, did not know Jani or that she had a relationship with him.
Authorities believe the two fled in a rental car, but they did not know what make or model. Since she's disappeared, Solanki's cell phone has not been working, Dart said.
He added that authorities have spent $250,000 in the search for Solanki. He also said at this time they do not anticipate any criminal charges being filed against anyone.
Benazir could still be out there somewhere.
Does it not strike you as odd that she did not take the traditional route of simply divorcing her husband to be with the man she really loved?
Or is divorce so frowned upon in our society that such desperate measures such as faking one's own death have to be taken?
Without accusing any individual, there is still the possibility that this woman's life may have been in danger if she would have just said, "I'm leaving you", and walked out.
So let's refrain from calling her "stupid" for now. We don't know why she did this.
The more I read, the more appalled I am. To deceitfully phone up your friend and make her worry like that, to waste that much money, etc. She needs to grow the f**k up.
At least, she didn't falsely accuse an unnamed Hispanic man of rape while at it.
I agree with Miss Marples here.
It's possible that Anu Solanki didn't have a easy way out. A "stupid" woman wouldn't have made such elaborate plan.
Yes, in Lakewood, Ohio.
proof
But a really smart woman would've gotten away with it.
You obviously don't get why I called her stupid. Not so much because her plan was sinister, but because it was so obviously not going to work very well
So what's the deal here? Was she a DBD or an ABD? Was she pressured into an arranged marriage?
Well, Miss Marples I have a plausible explanation for this but I'm afraid that might malign hubby's name in some way. So I don't want to put it forth here.
Correction;
Again, we have to examine why it is Anu felt she could not simply file for divorce. I'd like to know more about her family background and upbringing, as well as the background of her husband and in-laws. I'm sure there must be more here than meets the eye.
Another desi woman also served time in jail for setting her husband on fire. But she had plenty good reason, as we later found out.
ugh. don't be such a gossip whore
jk
Bhutto had an arraigned marrigae. Just sayin'.
From what I read, she dated her husband for 2 yrs before they got married.
Probably because she did not have a respectable enough reason to ask for a divorce??
And she would be too guilty to do that - " didn't have the guts", as nala proposed earlier?
....
and so on.
Now, you can imagine scenarios that fit the above bill.
I read that she moved to the US 10 years ago while in school(high), etc.
So now can we discuss if she's hot or not?
I think they left for from Chicago on Christmas Eve, and accidentally let a tiger out of its enclosure while trying to immerse the Ganesh idol in the moat. Discuss.
Tatiana is majestic, man!
Oops, did you mean to post this in the tiger thread?
Now I see the sepiamutiny connection. She had an arranged marriage just like bhutto. She eloped with someone from california too. Maybe its one of those allegedly stupid ttt (tiger taunting teenager) desis??
Are you asking this in seriousness?
Either way, I think you meant to say 'if she's DESI hot or not.'
Now that's sick. Really.
Ok, but couldn't she call her husband from a safe place and tell him "I'm leaving you". Couldn't she call a relative? a friend? a neighbor? the police? a woman's shelter? As my mother used to say, there is no excuse for not calling. You can make a call from anywhere, especially when you have a cell phone. No one deserves to be left in the dark about a loved one. Not even if that person is abusive.
How much do these brahmin priests charge gullible superstitious hindus for giving this special permission?
The permission is to be taken from the county and not from the priests. And for that reason the priests ask individuals to do the visarjan in a pot full of water and then pour the water to the plants.
One bottle of kimchi usually suffices, though the prices have been going up significantly with India Shining and all...much to the envy of the rest of the world.
50% less than the fakirs who offer their djinn removal service on my "South Asian" entertainment channel;-)
Without accusing any individual, there is still the possibility that this woman's life may have been in danger if she would have just said, "I'm leaving you", and walked out.
ummm sounds to me like you are accusing. As of now it sounds to me like her husband is the victim. She dated him for 2 years before marrying him and now decided to ditch him without warning. This whole thing has an eerie resemblance to something that happened here in the early 90's. An Indian College student went missing while one her way back to school and there were posters everywhere about her. Turned out she just decided to go on a road trip(with someone) without telling her parents. In the mean time many hundreds of thousands of dollars were spent in trying to find her. In her case she made allegations about some one kidnapping her and tying her in a tree and stuff... All the allegations got dismissed later.
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qn4155/is_20000116/ai_n9601085
What? Does that make any sense? An abusive perpetrater deserves knowledge of the whereabouts of their victim?
61 · Miss Marples said
If you are going to be gossiping with the neighbors while knitting a sweater, at least spell your name right. Unless you are going for "Missed Marbles".
Even if the speculation was initially directed at the wrong person, I think the story seemed bogus enough to invite skepticism by a lot of us. This woman better pay a fine. I seriously cannot believe she did not have a single friend or family member she could confide in. Or she could have called the cops and tell them that she was leaving her husband and she didn't want to be followed because she feared that he would stop her. What about that idiot guy she went with? He should have had enough sense to tell her to come clean to the cops. Wasnt he man enough to protect her in case she was afraid of her husband?
I hope they both get to pay a fine.
We gratuitously slandered somebody, but, hey, A for effort!
Idly blaming the husband without any basis in fact is not much different than all those people who cast a suspicious eye on browns photographing federal buildings.
(And even if these speculations had turned out to be true, it doesn't make them any less prejudicial since they were made with absolutely no information).
I disagree. Reading the comments, I don't think many would have gotten the impression that the husband was considered a prime suspect by those who speculated. It's a blog. Not a jury trial. So people are going to speculate. I see nothing wrong with it. Even when people were curious about the husband, I did not see any bad stuff said about him. It was more of "hey this sounds fishy, look into his angle".
Is that possible? I don't see anywhere that she directly misrepresented herself to the authorities.
Just asking in case I need to hatch a plan like this to run off on my Grihini.
I hope they both get to pay a fine
Or better yet forward the bill for the cost of the search. I believe $250,000? I don't see why the taxpayers should pay for this nonsense. Its cases like these that cause police to take real cases less seriously.
That doesn't work if you want him to think you're dead. Like in "Sleeping with the Enemy".
84 · Rahul said
Hence the word -- speculation. Since none on this blog are privy to any "inside information" would you rather be silent until all the "facts" come out (which I doubt, since there will be no prosecution)? After all, everyone is entitled to one's opinion and that's what is being espoused on all the blogs, including this one. I, for one, doubted the husband, but that was given the "facts" at the time.
As someone who knows Anu, I have to say she is a very sweet, happy go lucky person who always smiles and has nothing bad to say about anyone. She was the picture of an ecstatic bride after her wedding and showed her pictures, which were beautiful to everyone. She is very Pretty,and very kind-hearted,and something about this whole thing still does set right with me. I think anyone could be using her cell phone and what proof is there that she went willingly? A Lot of assumptions are being made without concrete evidence! I think further investigation is warranted. I, for one will be much more at peace when we actually hear from Anu herself! I know she is very close to her family members and I do not believe she would have done this to her parents and family and friends(caused all this heartache) so as far as I am concerned, there are still many vital questions unanswered!
Hmmm... You know a lot about Anu, I'd say you are Anu :D.
On a serious note - I am just glad that she is alive. I hope she is able to sort her life out after this.
It is pretty brave of you to voice your opinions, based on the "facts" (which were that the wife disappeared, and the husband and family initiated a police search) in initialed anonymity on a blog. Why don't you put out your full name and assorted identifying information on this blog, so that I, who am not privy to any "inside information", can also maliciously speculate about the kinds of behaviors you must have experienced from assorted members of your family that have inspired such a deep-seated distrust of your closest ones. Based on the "facts" (which are your willingness to leap to such conclusions), of course. And we have the temerity to complain about the gossipy and meddlesome nature of Indian aunties!
Just because it is legal and people "are going to do it" does not make it decent behavior.
92 · Rahul said
Just because it is legal and people "are going to do it" does not make it decent behavior.
Geez, you sure do practice what you preach.
Yes, I do. Thanks for having the decency to recognize it.
I went to school with Anu and from what I know, she was a really sweet girl. However, flirting was second nature for her and her parents were very strict about talking to boys or hanging out with them. Also, she had been going out with her husband for a while before the wedding and I always heard positive things about him. What happened in this situation is hard to say
I saw Karan Jani's profile on Orkut and he's got scrap saying "ill see you soon :)" on December 17th from someone called Anushka who I think is Anu Solanki..I could be wrong about that though.
Comment # 96 - now thats one use of orkut :) heh
UPDATE: Anu Solanki returned to the area and her family has arranged for her to meet with Cook County Sheriff's investigators at an undisclosed location Friday night, according to a sheriff's office news release. No other details were immediately released.
I am from Charlottesville too and knew Anu. It seems as if the possibility that she may yet be in danger has just been tossed aside in favor of a belief that she has run away from her husband. Why had no family members or friends been aware of any problems in the marriage? They were still relatively newlyweds! I find it hard to believe that no one saw any warning signs at all! If Anu is fine and left on her own, why has she not contacted close relatives..such as her mother? It just makes no sense to me......
This is great news ...that she has returned...I am just happy she is safe!!!!
Seahawks fan, thank you so much for the link.
I think we should all chill with the judgment since this case is confusing and few facts are known at this time-- at least she's alive, right? If she caused law enforcement to waste time and resources, then she should answer for that later, when we know what really happened. I understand the frustration, especially of those of you who wrote to us out of extreme concern for her, but right now, none of us knows what's going on.
#96 and #98 -- very informative comments. The photo in # 98 matches the album of the guy being referred to in #96.
I know some people will again protest against this "slander" as being not PC, but his(jani guy's) profile did seem kind of lame to me. His buddy's "testimonial" for him reads something like this:
(~||~)
The best explanation I could think of is that the female is just incredibly dumb... something like one of those dumb blonde stereotypes. I guess she had some kind of an online relationship with this guy and then they decided to meet and she probably just thought she could hang out with him for a few days and get back and weave up a story of kidnap or something...(?)
Karan Jani was in my class at USC, he is from Ahmedabad, he was a intelligent and quite guy, I am surprised seeing his photos in the paper.
alpha, you have been so right before, so it's only natural for you to keep playing when you are winning!
I am glad other people's lives are such wonderful theater for you, hopefully you will be able to return the favor one day.
Of course I was right. I never CLAIMED her husband killed her. I said MAYBE. POSSIBLY. MAYBE. And it still seems a reasonable line of thought to me given the information back then. If you think one should not talk about it, by all means please don't and stfu on claiming that I am somehow the villain here.
Anyways, I know its a bit of a subtle call, but I personally disagree with you on your opinion that what I said was particularly insensitive given the facts. I didn't say anything irrational or misrepresent facts or float around lies as fact. I put forth a proposal or a "theory", if you know what that means. The person who reads it has a brain and can decide how much of a probability to assign to that theory. I hope you will stop being unnecessarily being pissed at me and live in peace.
Cheers,
-Alphabeta.
Thanks for the laugh!
I guess the rabble-rousing Greta Van Susterens and Nancy Graces of the world wouldn't be around and successful if there weren't enough knuckle dragging dregs who believed that the scum they dredge up is a worthwhile service to society.
ok, I do share your hate for who I think are Fox TV conservative reporters and their supporters - the "knuckle dragging dregs" (?)
I didn't pick these two reporters for their conservative leanings, but for the often baseless accusations they so casually throw around without paying any heed to the damage it may actually cause to the people involved.
Rahul, stop being so judgemental about alphabeta!
:=)
Yeah, yeah, but didn't you know of the anti-catch 22 clause on being judgmental - the only thing you are allowed to be judgmental on is being judgmental.
But seriously, this behavior is more like muck raking. And the stench of casual statements thrown around in "brainstorming" hang around for ever, and are increasingly easily found on the Internet. I'm sure you'll agree since you intimately know a certain commenter who wanted to avoid relatively minor embarrassment by being so careful as to misspell his own name so that his comments that were not entirely flattering about a politician who was a friend of a very distant part of his family couldn't be found by the long arm of Google.
Being judgmental about certain actions is certainly reasonable, but speculations (if you don't want to call it anything stronger) about people being murderers, abusers, or controlling with absolutely no basis at all in fact is not. We dislike our own acquaintances when they indulge in far less than this level of speculation about people we love.
Don't worry:
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20071229/ap_on_re_us/missing_woman
She's found, and now may be likely responsible for the $250 K in efforts to find her.
Rahul, are you ok?
Glad Ms. Solanki is safe -- hope all turns out well.
How could you cast aspersions on my health like this, Camille? Am I not allowed to moralize for a day? :)
Speculate away like it is 1848, people!
Ok, rahul. I do concede it was "insensitive" to have put forth that kind of a speculation. Hardly "irrational" though, as you seem to confuse between the two. big difference. I was putting forth a maximum likelihood estimate without concern for what is at stake, if I was wrong. As you pointed out, this is high. Please do accept my apology.
However, no apologies to anu solanki; I rather seriously hope that she and/or the jani guy get fined for wasting 250K of taxpayer money.
No worries, alphabeta. Sorry if I came off too strongly, this kind of behavior is a pet peeve of mine. Anyways, this horse has now been flogged to its death and gnawed to the bone by a hungry tiger.
(Just curious as to why you felt I considered it irrational, I said unreasonable but I meant it in the "inappropriate" sense).
Like my gamma used to say, this is nothing nu. It's enough to make you psi.
Alpha beta, I speculate that you are maybe possibly maybe an idiot. (Just speculating, don't get all offended now.) Ah knew all along that Anu had eloped because there is no shortage of Anus in the world. I'll tell you a story.
When I was a kid way back in the 80s, a young woman who went to our gurudwara didn't come home from work one night. Her car was found the next day on a side-street near her work with a busted window. The whole community galvanized behind her family. Her father made tearful public requests for money to hire private detectives to find her. All kinds of rumors and stories were floated about what may possibly have been done to her that are still seared in my imagination. This went on for months. She was given up for lost. Then, she resurfaced. She had eloped. (She reconciled with her family a few years later.)
So I'm not saying that I'm clairvoyant, I'm just saying that I'm really smart. We live in a f-ed up world. It's no wonder people do f-ed up things. This Anu may not be the sharpest tool in the shed, but I am sure she had her complicated reasons for her complicated plan. I had a (how do you say "correct?") theory about this case all along, but I didn't think it was appropriate to publicly speculate just so that now--as I sit here smug and vindicated--I could have some proof to rub in your face as I said "I told you so."
You posted your speculative comment with no regard for possible ramifications. And now you continue to slander. (First the husband, now the boyfriend, or is it the boyfriend's friend you're making fun of? Anyway, it is clear that you are much cooler than them.) You judge him for being a loser based on his FaceBook profile? Man, you're a loser for digging up his FaceBook profile.
Naw, it ain't PC.
Signed,
The Mack
83 · Pravin said
What they did was irresponsible and self-centered, but is this the best "punishment" we can imagine? How about making them go around to high schools talking to kids about more responsible ways to resolve these conflicts. Why does it always have to be about money?
Unless you live in Cook County, I suspect you're more indignant about having been duped (unlike me, see comment #116) than you are about your tax dollars being wasted. And if it's "tax dollars" you're so worked up about, man, there's much bigger instances of corporate welfare, cronyism, and tax-waste that we can talk about. Much bigger.
She's hot
So what's common between Harrison Ford's Fugitive and Anu Solanki case? Other than happening in Cook County, nothing else :)
I think this is a case of young and dumb infatuation.
Jani seems to me like a good looking guy and Anu was deeply infatuated with her. Nothing wrong about her husband Mr. Solanki has come to light yet so being speculative, I will state that it is all Anu's fault.
I am a married guy from India and located here in Chicago. I will not want my wife to ever run away like this. I think we have excellent law to protect both parties and she could have gone away and have a divorce attorney send the papers and call him. She has presently demeaned herself and has caused enough headaches to her family. She has also caused her husband to be ripped apart by the media and the blogs.
Additionally, when all the states are hurting for revenue, this unplanned copy of 'Sleeping with the enemy' costed us taxpayers. I think some of you who mentioned fines are right. Until we are forced to pay a price for our mistakes, it does not teach others a lesson.
Finally, the question we all have to ask ourselves. Does our culture, values and beliefs teaches us to do what happened here? Would we ever want this to happen in our lives? If not, lets hope that Anu, Karan and Dignesh get out of this mess peacefully. After all life is a paradise (no pun intended) and let's enjoy our day.
To #116.
Of course I already accepted that my comment was "insensitive" and apologized clearly. What exactly is the point of your super emotional sounding essay given this fact?
Sure, I'm not stupid enough to take an issue with that. But you must realize that in spite of your "real smartness", you somehow paradoxically are a bunch of contradictions. First you say
which blatantly contradicts what you say later:
In contrast, I, the one who you take so much offence with for "slandering", never even went so far to insinuate that she was irresponsible or depraved in any way. I nevertheless used "stupid" unreservedly because it seemed trivial to me that trying to fool authorities into thinking you are dead would never work. If it doesn't sound stupid to you, well... i guess people just think "differently".
I said it sort of looked lame to me... If you disagree, thats good. And I didn't exactly "dig it out". I was just verifying something someone else already pointed out and happened to make a casual observation. I just don't get why you're so pissed.
btw, Harbeer: I was also wondering if you could explain why you thought me calling a (lame orkut profile)/(stupid act) as lame/stupid respectively is apparently considered such vicious slander with "ramifications" while your casual remark that they were "irresponsible and self centered" is not slander(?). I at least made observations on specific acts/events and not the person as a whole. On the contrary, me thinks you did exactly that - "slander"
hey all,
harb, rahul, nice to see you guys in good form.
It took a 1st-gen party (i.e. uncles and aunties congregation) and a chance encounter with a former student of my mother to jolt my memory. This Anu went to my highschool and actually graduated with me. Due in no small part to her involvement in ESL, and my own insistence on shouting random Brecht-on-Brecht lines throughout the day, I hardly knew her (but didn't forget the face). Obviously back then she didn't share a last name with greatest accessorizer of our generation. I do hope that she's playing it safe. Pulling on the heartstrings of old/new family is no joke, however, and the humor we're squeezing out of this situation might be prove to be almost as crass than Hitchen's line about children's bottoms in God Is Not Great.
than = as
i must speculate that i'm losing what little ability to string together a coherent sentence. AlphaBeta, you're on the case! I hear the culprits might be located in Santa's workshop.
http://www.wthitv.com/Global/story.asp?S=7554878
AP is reporting that she's back and safe.
http://www.southtownstar.com/news/718111,122907missingwomanupdate.article
a more local paper is reporting the same, but pegging the search costs at an unbelievable $250 million. AB--could her husband/boyfriend/grand vizier have possibly killed her, cloned a copy from a hair sample, and then flew back home on a flying carpet before the authorities could catch up?